Social Wellness Questions - So Are you Nice or Likable?

Social Wellness Questions - So Are you Nice or Likable?

Rooster pics courtesy ScrapeTv

Hi on this wonderful Saturday morning!

One of the neighbours got a rooster over the Christmas holidays. It's crowing 'Good Morning' to all who care to listen and enjoy.

A rooster's crowing turns out to be one of my favourite sounds and I only remembered after hearing this rooster last Boxing Day, 2009. Every morning now, one of the first things I get to enjoy before I even open my eyes is that rooster crowing! ;-)

A neighbour up the road used to have many chickens and at least one rooster decades ago. I remember waking up to the sound of the rooster way back then and for many of my childhood and teenage years.

Isn't it amazing what we don't miss because we no longer have it and don't even remember having it... ;-)

I didn't plan it, but that may be a tie-in to what I wanted to blog about. Earlier, I commented on Scott Herrick's 'Cube Rules' post, 'Why you need to be likable at work — but not nice'. I found his post via Guy Kawasaki's tweet about a post he wrote about Scott's post. ;-)

If you look at the comments section of Scott's blog post, there's a debate about the definitions of the two terms, but these are the definitions set out by Scott:

The dictionary defines “nice” as it relates to a person as “pleasant in manner; good-natured; kind.”

Likable sounds like the same as nice, but it is not. The dictionary defines likable as “pleasant, friendly, and easy to like”.

And here's what I contributed via comment:

Word definitions are so interestingly close! ;-) Never-the-less, whether the definitions are yours or Roger's, the distinction is important and necessary.
Going with yours, being nice is often the easy way out of not Being fully who we are... of letting go enough of our power so that we end up waking up each morning wondering why life feels empty. It's also interesting how this nice/likable distinction plays out in every other relationship sphere, including love, family, friendship.

If we looked at nice/likable from the gender, male/female perspectives, the debate would get even more heated! ;-)

Thanks for your post. btw, visiting from Guy Kawasaki's tweet and blog referencing this post...

Whilst doing some inner work in preparation for the New Year, Guidance suggested I take back my power in certain specific areas. That was a bit 'd'uh' because that's part of what I do fairly frequently. Sometimes giving away power is so commonplace, we lose track when we do it and take it for granted. So in my ongoing time-with-me moments, I often look at that.

Despite this, when I focused in, I saw several ways that I have been 'nice' that have resulted in lack of clarity on the part of others about what's important to me.

This 'niceness', whether to not rock the boat or to allow others to feel good, blurs boundaries and sets up expectations and lack of clarity that can cause problems down the road.

Does being 'nice' allow others in your life to feel/pretend that you, your contribution, your opinion are not important? Do you play 'nice', give up some of your power and then end up wondering 'where did the respect, love, whatever go'?

In a world that is transforming from duality and separation to 'Oneness', it's still important to love, trust, respect and fully express yourself first. The one may not occur without the other.

Exploring then fully expressing and Being All of You is an important part of being a powerful creator of your life. It's important to be powerful because that's how you manifest what you choose to create in your life. Collectively, peaceful co-existence, collective abundance, love, respect and full self expression occurs when each one of us is powerfully Being who we are fully.

Your full Soul alignment, your full integration with your Divine Self and Soul Self is not possible if you don't have clearly defined boundaries as a human person first. It's the same as for all other relationships: know, love, trust, respect, honour and express yourself fully as a person and your relationships with all others flow much more smoothly.

If Being nice results in you giving up too much of what is important to you, what's unique about you, quit being 'nice'. Be You instead. That's Who Life Itself needs to show up each day so that our world can become what we collectively choose and co-create it to be.

btw, here's a rooster crowing 'sound-a-like'... ;-)



Until next time, Hugzzz and level vibes...


Angela

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Social Wellness Questions - So Are you Nice or Likable?

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